- Keeping It Real-
Mind matters is an integral part of the Big Picture Living Brand. Mind Matters has evolved from a very passionate and heartfelt place. It developed a result of the learnings I have gathered as a mother during my own heartbreaking journey supporting one of my precious children.
This journey has been the most challenging period in mine and indeed my whole families lives - most of all my child - Who a lengthy period of time being tortured (the only word I believe appropriately even begins describes the ordeal) by mental illness.
A Mother's Love
By Helen Steiner Rice
A Mother's love is something
that no one can explain,
It is made of deep devotion
and of sacrifice and pain...
It is endless and unselfish
and enduring come what may
For nothing can destroy it
or take that love away...
It is patient and forgiving
when all others are forsaking,
And it never fails or falters
even though the heart is breaking...
It believes beyond believing
when the world around condemns,
And it glows with all the beauty
of the rarest, brightest gems...
It is far beyond defining,
it defies all explanation,
And it still remains a secret
like the mysteries of creation...
A many splendoured miracle
man cannot understand
And another wondrous evidence
of God's tender guiding hand.
As a society we have much to do in terms of pressures, and expectations, social media pressure, bullying and embracing of difference - these things and more impacted life’s journey significantly,leading to a world that was way too hard to cope in normally.
The experiences and emotions resulting from this journey led to many changes in all our lives.
A major priority for me on the Big Picture platform is to offer an avenue, pathway for other families going through similar experiences.
How to move from a place of feeling totally powerless and broken, to regaining control and calm in your life - whilst knowing at the same time that the problem may not and in fact may never be “fixed”.
During this the most traumatic period I can ever recall in my life I moved through a myriad of emotions from a space of - total devastation, panic and fear to a place where calm and inner balance was able to be restored over a defined period of time.
As a direct result of this journey, I became vulnerable, a fighter and invincible. Incredibly passionate as a woman, Health Practitioner and Mother, I Plan to reach out the hand of support to all of you who are going through this journey.
I want to ensure that result our family journey has allowed me to show you the way through a roadmap of care, understanding and support develop this site in order to assist yourself, carers or families.
We will journey this path through many portals.
Here is the raw and unedited truth of my journey over the past 2 years as a complete basket case, trying to pull together all the parts of my life that were falling apart particularly living in the nightmare that is mental illness and substance abuse through the eyes of me as a mother and of one of my nearest and dearest.
The local Situation
We have a Serious Youth Mental Health Crisis here in Tasmania, as I am also very aware we do Nationally.
I can personally vouch that there is little to NO help out there for our Young People in crisis.
With little to no available crisis assistance for our young people, I am sure you would understand that it surely follows that there is as a result even less help and for those loved ones, Carers and friends who are caring for someone suffering from a Crisis - be it Anxiety, Depression or Addiction.
From personal experience I have felt the huge impact and toll this leaves on each person involved.
As I stated above my family and I have been battling a severe mental health issue with one of my own family in crisis for the past 2 years.
These issues are not the sort of thing you post on Facebook or that you share with many people if anyone - in fact mostly you keep up the illusion of happy families to anyone who chooses to ask.
Inside your world is falling apart - in so many ways emotionally and financially to name but 2.
It certainly felt for me like the loneliest time of my life- everyone had so much advice, most well intended but none of which I was ever going to risk as losing my child was a risk I was not prepared to take!
In my Home town, Hobart, Tasmania
In Hobart, Our youth suicide rates are the second highest in the country - and our adolescent mental health services are inadequate to say the least.
If someone like myself whom in my professional life is a Nurse Practitioner with over 30 years experience in the Acute and Private Health Sectors who I considered myself to be very connected and aware of all the available support services. within the health system still is unable to access the right care at the right time in the right place then what hope is there!
At 17 years 10 months, we discovered first hand that you are not entitled to see an Adult Psychiatrist till your 18th birthday, and your urgent referral will most likely sit on the Adolescent psychiatrists desk waiting for you to turn 18 regardless of the urgency and will most likely be rejected “too hard Basket” - Public Hospitals particularly in Tasmania do not have the available to deal with this critical issue.
Community services numerous calls, desperate pleas for help - no help, either your loved one is too sick, too young or unless they consent to accept help themselves no help available.
For the carer the torture is like living in a constant world of abuse - when you are trying to prevent a loved one from their own self-destructive behaviour, it destroys everything. You live your life on the front line, prepared to go into combat day and night to ensure they come home in one piece or that you “rescue them” from their own destruction.
My journey into this hell brought me to my knees and ultimately change is needed desperately - but ultimately I want to take your hands in your most scary times and say, “ I know you are terrified, no matter what happens YOU will be ok” Once I had this realisation, and I finally stopped, breathed and slowly began to accept what I could not directly change things began to change.
National Mental Health Solutions - will only ever scrape the surface I firmly believe that the answer to our National Mental Health crisis does not only the lie in the hands of Political Parties and Government Agencies and providing more funding - this would only provide one part of the answer.
We need change across many levels, particularly within the community at large - preventing the need for inpatient care in the first place.
Please like, comment and share to help me raise awareness and get someone in a position of influence to pay attention and work with us to find a solution!
This may seem fluffy to some of you but I truly believe that in our society that our society is always looking for Quick fixes and bandaid solutions to problems that exist in our MODERN FAST PACED WORLD.
Thank you for taking this leap of faith and choosing control over chaos. This site and the programmes within will be filled with. Snippets and tidbits from my own personal journey of anger, grief and healing, written from one seeker of inner calm to another. I truly believe we have a choice. We can choose happiness. The one thing that I do know for sure is that once you choose it and equip yourself with the tools to navigate it, then anything is possible.